Nature vs. Nurture

I'm going to get a little controversial here.  Let's talk about being gay.

Do you think it's a choice?  Do your children know what the term "gay" means?

I'll answer those questions.  In some cases I think people choose to engage relations with members of the same sex.  Especially girls.  It's kind of chic to be a lesbian, and I think alot of young ladies do it to be cool.

To BE gay is a different matter.  I don't think it's a choice.  I think some people are just gay.

I see it already with some of the children in my life.  One of my friends SWEARS her oldest son is gay.  She says she's known it since he was about 3.  (He's 8 now.) I've advised her not to announce it at social gatherings and it drives her husband nuts.  But the truth of the matter is, I DO think he probably is.  I just think he's too young to have that label.  His mom should be a little more discreet.

Another one of my friends has a 7 year old daughter who only wears boy's clothes.  She runs around in the summer in a boy's bathing suit and no shirt,  (At her own pool.) She rides a boy's bike and only plays with dinosaurs and Rescue Heroes.   Maybe she just likes boy things, but my instinct tells me that she might be gay.  Or, she might just be a tomboy.   

We all have masculine and feminine traits and interests.  I would never say to ANYONE I know what I think, but it will be interesting to see what happens in 10 years.  (Oh and yes, I know that being a lesbian doesn't mean a woman only dresses in boys clothes and plays sports...I'm just sharing my thoughts on this particular little girl.)

Finally, a boy in my 9 year old daughter's class told her yesterday that he is gay.  To meet him is to believe it.  I love him, he's a doll.  But I was class mom in first grade and I remember thinking he seemed gay when I would see him at parties.  It's just amazing to me that in 4th grade he is already aware of this!!!

You might be wondering...how do these children know what GAY is at such a young age?  Well I can tell you that my daughter knows because she knows gay people.  Two of the tennis pros at our club are in a relationship.   My girls know that Candace and Nicole are a couple.  Last summer when we stayed at a beautiful  Inn in Boothbay Harbor Maine, the Innkeepers gay men.  My daughters saw them holding hands, they knew that they were married.

My girls don't know the SPECIFICS of being gay.  They just know that it means a man marries a man, or a woman marries a woman.  They just accept it as a fact of life.  Which I think is good.

What do you think??

THIS pisses me off.....

1. Narrow minded people

2. Small women in huge SUVs talking on their cell phones while trying to park in the compact car spot at Starbucks

3. Holier than thou anything

4. The View - I have to leave the room when its on.

5. Eagles losing - which has happened more frequently than not this year.

6. Dealing with public agencies - long stories, but don't have a disability or get old...you'll get NO help.

Things that Annoy Me...How much time do you have???

1. Educators who don't really care about children. Listen HERE...your job is to make sure that children learn! It doesn't matter if you taught it 65,000 times...if the children don't learn it then YOU DIDN'T REALLY TEACH IT. You can spout out all of "parents don't care" and "society is a mess" and whatever else you want but the fact remains that children come to us, in may cases sleep-deprived, hungry, dirty, and unloved. If you can't deal with that and open your heart to do WHATEVER IT TAKES for ALL OF THE CHILDREN....even the ones who aren't so lovable then FIND YOURSELF A NEW JOB!!!!!!!!!

2. Cigarette smoke

3. People who are ugly and hateful about the political party that they disagree with. Everybody has a reason for why they think the way they think...it's not for us to judge anybody elses motivation. We don't have to agree and I DON'T agree with many folks; however, they are entitled to their feelings. Let's all just calm down, why don't we...

4. Tommy Bowden

5. Tattletales

6. The holes in my front yard dug by the neighbor's dog.

7. Flying coach (which I do 99% of the time...but it annoys me nonetheless)

8. Whiny people (which I am right now but YOU ASKED!!)

9. Telemarketers

10. People who won't return phone calls...turn off your answering machine if you aren't going to reply

11. People who don't say "thank you"

That's it for the moment...I might be back on this topic later on!!

Does Pollyanna have a list like this??

Remember that Monte Python movie the Life of Bryan? Where the guys have the song...'Always look at the bright side of life..'? (That movie cracks me up, by the way). Well, my new years resolution this year was not to be such a negative Nellie. Make lemonade if I got lemons. You know the drill. And in case any of my fellow collagers start to get irritated.....I am not a super chipper person by nature. Really. Hence the resolution.

All that said, I am still participating in the Great Piss Off posting! I have to go there! Who can go through life and not get irritated, even if they are trying like crazy to have a positive mental attitude?

Mine is disrespect. That's a biggie I know. And kind of all encompassing. It would totally cover the lady who was not respectful of the other drivers on the highway when one of my favorite Jersey drivers was tooling around with her mother. It covers my sweet kids when they get a little sassy and ungrateful and are disrespectful to their beautiful momma, and it covers the woman at Mass who can not seem to break herself away from Father's riveting homily to take her SCREAMING child into the very nicely decked out cry room only 50 feet away from her pew, thereby disrespecting the entire congregation.

I think, if everyone just thought about the people around them a little bit, the world would be a nicer place. And it totally pisses me off when the rude SOBs don't.

Phew. I"m glad I got that off my chest. Back to the Happy Game, Aunt Polly!

Therapy Session: Anger Management

 WOW! I certainly can feel the anger being released when reading these posts!

Don't you all feel so much lighter?

Okay, her I go(deep cleansing breath):

* Parents who think that is more important to WIN or BE THE BEST than being a good, honest person

* Ex wives who think that just because they moved on to someone else that the children should also leave their father behind

* People who disregard cones in the road or requests to not pass in the carpool line

* Those who think being gay is because something happened to you as a child and don't believe that you are who you are and accept it

* People who can only see black or white and never understand the grey area

* Ignorant people 

* People who tell EVERYTHING to EVERYONE even if you specifically asked them not to

* Parents who do not teach their children respect for adults, responsibility, and also taking time to appreciate time at HOME,  instead over scheduling them

* People who love to focus on something negative about you to make themselves feel better

I feel much brighter now that I let that all out:)

Have an anger free day!!!!

Hmm...what ticks me off?!

SOO many things tick me off! Really, one might think I'm the angriest person alive if I listed everything, huh? LOL I'm not really, I just let things get under my skin more so than others I guess.

• People who think because they have a title they are Holier Than Though and should be treated as tho they are the highest of importance. I'm not talking about people with titles such as Doctors, or Lawyers. I'm talking about people who VOLUNTEER for a position, then think because they are doing this "out of the goodness of their heart" we should bow down to them and kiss the ground they walk on. Nope, not happening here people!
• Father's who forget they have a family from their first marriage. These guys claim to still love & cherish their children, but yet still put them last on the list of priorities and the cry when the kids do the same towards them!
• Liars. I am pretty sure that everyone knows a "liar" and knows where I am coming from on this one, right?
• People who are always right, or think they are right. Doesn't matter the subject, or whatever, they know it all. As my husband says "they've been there, done that", but not really, they just think they have.

See, I told you there were a lot of things that tick me off, I'll just stop here so you guys don't think I'm the angriest person alive, LOL

There Are Too Many Things That "TICK ME OFF"

to put into just one post, but after watching last night's debate...this has got to be my #1...

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I thought Sarah Palin did a wonderful job in the debate. Alot of people predicted that she would fail and fail miserably. She surprised everyone and like I knew she would...held her own against a seasoned Washington DC Political Insider.

So, it just ticks me off how the press (and the Hollywood Elite) keep talking about how horrible she is...how she lost the debate...how she was too "folk-sy"...how awful it would be if she became Vice President...that it is like a "BAD DISNEY MOVIE"!?!? If that is the case, why don't they move to Canada? And speaking of moving out of our Wonderful Country, are they not the same people that said pretty much the same thing when W was running for re-election? Why didn't they honor their word and move?



Also, I had mentioned in a previous post about how I like to learn about the candidates. In that line of thought, this needs to be mentioned. Before last nights debate, I had not done alot of research on Biden. After his heartfelt comments about "knowing what it is like to be a single parent" and "leaning over the bed of an injured child, praying that they will live"...I had to research him further.

Did you know that his wife and 3 children were involved in a serious car accident shortly after he won his first election? I didn't. His young wife had taken the children to pick out a Christmas tree and they were hit by a large truck as they pulled onto the street. The wife and 13 month old daughter were killed. His two sons were critically injured and hospitalized for many months. He immediately tried to resign his position, but was talked out of it. So for countless months, he rode the train 1 1/2 hours each way to work so that he could be home each night to sit by the bedside of his injured boys. WOW...



But in closing, I just had to include this photo of Sarah and her beautiful little boy.



She is my Mommy Hero!